Lena is playing in the sandbox with the boys. her teacher walks up and scolds her. "shouldn't you be playing house with the other girls? " later, when the boys ask her to play with her, lena says, "that stuff is for boys. i don't like it," even though she really wants to play in the sandbox. according to carl rogers, lena is experiencing
Lena is experiencing incongruence.
Incongruence is a psychological approach that develops when a person's experience is denied their conscience. That is, the self-image of a person, his tastes, his idealizations, what the person wants to be and his real experiences, the more distant from an individual's ideal, the more incongruous. The denial of an incongruity emerges as a defense mechanism to make the individual feel less threatened.